Every person who has been a part of your life came into it for a specific purpose. That purpose could have been to break your heart. Maybe it was to take advantage of you or to be there for you when you needed a shoulder to cry on. Perhaps they took the form of a teacher or mentor who illuminated a better path to walk.
At the end of the day, it doesnโt matter why people come and go from your life. The lessons they teach you, on the other hand, are important to pay attention to.
We are all teachers who serve different lessons. You have entered the lives of countless people to provide a wide variety of experiences to them. Every person you have crossed paths with has done the same to you.
Not all of these experiences are enjoyable or intended, not at all. But is there a reason why you have crossed paths with the people who have?
The truth is that you play out certain experiences with people because you have aย karmic agreementย with them, also known as a soul contract. As random and spontaneous as life seems, your life has been intricately orchestrated by higher forces.
Some call this karma, others call it destiny. But how deep does this rabbit hole go? Letโs explore it.
What Are Soul Contracts?
A soul contract is a spiritual agreement with another soul to undergo a particular mutual experience for soul growth. Imagine it as theย terms and conditionsย for your incarnation, in which you will have a plethora of experiences with other souls during your stay on planet Earth.
Life on Earth provides the opportunity for different relationships to manifest and particular lessons to be gained through them. People enter your life to fulfill a karmic agreement created before incarnating. Everyone has soul contracts as they build the map of their life experiences and what they came here to learn.
You may agree to be victimized by someone or perhaps be a casualty of war to burn off karma and to experience that form of suffering to accrue wisdom within it. Perhaps you agreed to save someone’s life, or end one.
You agreed to have the parents you have. Perhaps you have amazing parents who show you unconditional love and support, in which case would be the fruit of positive karma. Perhaps your parents were abusive, or neglectful, and your soul chose to have this experience to burn off karma.
Before you incarnate, you agree to certain experiences that you will undergo in this lifetime. These experiences are agreed upon depending on what lessons your soul needs to learn.
Why Do We Make Soul Contracts?
Look at Earth as a spiritual classroom.
Souls make agreements before incarnating here, which is like deciding the teachers youโre going to have during this lifetime. These teachers teach different lessons (and subjects) in different ways, but they all ultimately serve the soulโs evolution.
Everyone is interconnected within an intricate web of experiences. The nature of these experiences will be very different from person to person. Every major experience that you have had was agreed upon by all parties involved in that experience.
Souls come into your life in the form of family, friends, lovers, acquaintances, clients, influences, and even the person who cut you off in traffic. Whether this is the relationship between a perpetrator and victim or a politician and the people his policies affect, we have agreed to experience what we experience in this lifetime one way or another.
Understanding Karmic Agreements
Letโs say you get into a toxic relationship with a narcissist, and you develop some pretty severe trauma because of it.
You may have signed up for a lesson to love yourself more deeply and to have stronger boundaries, which this experience facilitated. Perhaps the narcissist needs to learn not to abuse their power, otherwise, they will lose what they love.
This is an example of a karmic agreement. Everyone involved in the spiritual contract learns something that they need to learn, and thatโs why these souls made that particular agreement. The experience that you have is matched with someone elseโs experience who needs to learn a similar lesson.
Karmic entanglement can span over many lifetimes. Souls may have experienced many lifetimes where the contract stands because they havenโt yet learned the lesson: So theyโre bound to continueย repeating the same lessonsย in different forms.
These souls will continue to enter each otherโs lives with a different nature of relationship, but the same dynamic will take place until they both finally learn the lesson embedded in the contract.
On the other hand, if you learn what you need to learn, you will not need to play out that same nature of relationship because your soul no longer needs it.
Can You Break Soul Contracts?
From my understanding, soul contracts canโt beย broken.
Hereโs my reasoning.
Your soul is an infinitely wise consciousness that surely knows what itโs doing. If a soul made a contract to learn a lesson, then there is probably a good reason why it did so. Think about it this way: why would you create a contract you would break?
You might say โThatโs not true, Iโve broken soul contracts, we decide if we want to follow through with that lessonโ.
But how do you know what the lesson is? Furthermore, what does breaking a soul contract look like to you? Is it to stand up for yourself and tell someone you wonโt tolerate it anymore? Is breaking a contract telling a thief not to steal from you?
From my perspective, isnโt this playing out the contract? Maybe the lesson youโre supposed to learn is to say enough and regain your power. Maybe the lesson was to feel defeated and give up.
In this sense, youโre still playing out your soul contracts, whether you know youโre doing it or not.
I believe there is nothing you can do about your soul contracts as they exist for a reason. Voiding a contract would void the lesson you need to learn, so you wouldnโt benefit from it anyway. If we could simply opt out of painful experiences, then there would be no more suffering.
There would be no more rape, murder, war, horror. But somehow, I donโt think censoring our human experience would do our souls any good. The major events that happen in your life were supposed to happen for your spiritual growth, and part of being a human is to play out those major events.
By being aware of your contracts, you can recognize the different relationships that take place within your life and navigate them with more ease and understanding.
Different Types of Soul Contracts
Soul contracts come in different forms and can also be with spirits and animals. Some contracts will be painful, to teach you lessons of wisdom. Others will be nice experiences where someone helps you out. The nature of your experience with these beings is dependent on the lessons you need to learn.
Soul contracts come in many forms, such as your family, friends, lovers, pets, and all sorts of people who come into your life for different reasons.
Soul contracts often come in the form of positive karmic agreements (where the souls come into one anotherโs lives to help each other) and negative karmic agreements where you enter someoneโs life to undergo a painful experience. Positive karmic agreements are designed to help you in some form.
Here are some common soul contracts and what they typically mean.
Soulmates
People tend to think that a soul mate is the person that you fall in love with and spend the rest of your life with.
This isnโt true.
A soul mate is any soul that has a mutual contract to help one another out in this life. Look at it in a way where your souls are buddies and entwine within this incarnation for mutual growth and learning.
Soul mates generally have many incarnations together, and the nature of their relationship is generally different every time. There is often a sense of familiarity with a soul mate. Whether the person is a lover, business partner, friend, or family member, you have a karmic bond with these souls.
Family Soul Contract
Family dynamics can be unique as theyโre generally quite close relationships but also provide grounds for a whole lot of learning. You have a spiritual contract with all of your family members and have agreed to be a part of the family youโre in.
Your family may be completely dysfunctional, and part of your contract is to work through that. Maybe thereโs some deep trauma within your family, or you have been through an intense situation with them. However, the family contract is usually a loving and caring contract where each person is there to support, help, and guide one another via a close/personal bond.
Romantic Relationships
Soul contracts often occur in relationships, as relationships act as mirrors. Relationships act as a platform to do some serious healing, as youโre forced to look at yourself very closely as youโre in such close quarters with someone else. This is why soul contracts often take the form of relationships, to illuminate things that nobody else could show you.
Relationships can make you face fears, trigger you, and teach you valuable lessons that you wouldnโt learn outside of the romantic dynamic. These contracts are often made when thereโs work to be done on the sacral chakra. With that said, these contracts can also be deeply fulfilling and mutually beneficial for those involved.
Twin Flame
The twin flame is said to be a mirror of your soul. As such, thereโs no better opportunity to learn about yourself than by staring directly at it. These sorts of contracts can be extremely passionate and beautiful but yield the same amount of growth and learning.
Twin flame connections are quite rare, but they can be as beautiful as they are delightful. When your twin flame comes into your life, you know some serious growth is going to occur because theyโre going to illuminate everything about yourself, no exceptions.
They will strip you to the deepest levels of your naked consciousness, and youโll be forced to look at all the dysfunction of yourself, inside out.
The Victim and the Perpetrator
In some soul contracts, you will be the innocent victim in a painful relationship.
From unprovoked bullying to abuse in some form. You agree to be an innocent victim in certain situations because you need to experience that suffering for whatever reason it serves.
You may also be a victim to burn off karma and allow another soul the opportunity to be a perpetrator. If youโre the perpetrator, you may have a soul contract to help someone else burn off their bad karma or to experience the abuse of power yourself.
Of course, donโt go looking for either of these situations, but naturally, many people will make these contracts.
The Mentor and Student
The mentor and student soul contract is when you have an agreement to teach an individual or to be guided by someone. Usually, people have agreements to be mentors for some people and students for others. This individual may be a student of yours or someone that you take under your wing to guide them.
The mentor contract is a position of authority, so thereโs a lot of karma at stake here. You may also be on the student side of the contract, where your contract is to learn particular lessons with the guidance of someone else. Whether youโre on the student side or the mentor side, itโs important to fulfill this role with grace, respect, and love.
The Leader and the Follower
The leader/follower spiritual contract is when one soul has a contract to be in a position of authority, while other contracts are to be the follower. This agreement can be mutually beneficial when the leader cares about the followers and genuinely wants to help, but it can also go the opposite direction when they abuse their power.
People who are spiritual leaders, politicians, celebrities, influencers, and bosses tend to have a contract to be in the leadership position. This means theyโre given a lot of influence and power to play with, and this affects everyone who follows them. People who are followers on the other hand can be guided and helped by their leaders. But thereโs a shadow.
Those same leaders can also become dictators and authoritarians. They can become cult leaders, abuse their power to serve themselves, and harm or neglect the people who are in the follower position. If you have a contract to be a leader in this life, you want to make sure the agreement is positive for the followers, otherwise, you can accrue a lot of bad karma in this position.
Why You Make Soul Contracts
Now that weโve explored what soul contracts are and how they work, here are some reasons why your soul will make a contract. Every person you have entwined with along your spiritual journey has served a purpose in one form or another. See if you can recognize what some of the people in your life came for.
For Growth and Learning
The primary reason why you make soul contracts with other souls is to gain wisdom. All experiences, whether theyโre traumatic or beautiful, teach you important lessons, and these lessons lead to soul growth.
Lessons come in all sorts of forms and often arenโt pleasant to experience (but necessary for your soulโs evolution). Someone robbing you might teach you an important lesson of caution, while someone giving you a hand when youโre down may show you that you are supported. Each contract serves a different lesson, but theyโre all there to serve your growth.
For Help and Healing
Some people come into your life with the sole intention of helping you. Have you ever had someone show up in your life and change your trajectory when you were at your lowest? Maybe you had a good conversation that lifted your spirit, or the person assisted you with something you were struggling with. These are all examples of soul agreements to help.
Soul agreements to heal have a positive karmic relationship. The person who is being helped benefits from the interaction, while the person, spirit, or being who helps is allowed to be at service.
Your soul contracts to help often involve healers. These healers can take the form of doctors, therapists, counselors, energy workers, shamans, or a good friend who wants to see you succeed. You can be on either side of this contract, so keep an eye out for people and animals that need help, as it might be your duty to help them.
For Guidance Along Your Spiritual Path
Sometimes, a being will enteryour life to give you some guidance. This guidance can come in the form of a person who motivates you to make a change in your life, someone who illuminates a path forward or pushes you to become your best self. The purpose of a contract with a guide is to help you align with your soul mission.
Your soul contracts with guides often come in the form of teachers, mentors, coaches, and spiritual leaders, but family, friends, and lovers can also fulfill this role. You may also tap into spiritual guides to receive guidance and direction, but these are different types of contracts as theyโre other dimensional aspects of your consciousness.
To Burn Off Karma
If there are particular lessons you need to learn, you probably created some soul contracts to work on those lessons. For example, letโs say you had a lot of power in a previous life and abused it. In this life, you might make contracts with souls who strip your sense of power or abuse you so that you learn what you imposed on others.
Donโt look at karma as a bad thing. Karmic energy is neutral and serves the purpose of orchestrating experiences for souls which guides them towards lessons that they need for their development.
Always look for the lessons in every connection you have. Whether itโs a beautiful connection or a painful experience, look into why it happened and what itโs forcing you to work on. Approach life from a perspective where every situation is orchestrated to help you grow into your full potential, regardless of what it is.
If you go through dark experiences, are you going to hold onto resentment and spend your life blaming the person? Or are you going to let it go, knowing that the experience was signed well before you were born? Remember, at a soul level, you are responsible for every experience you undergo, and every experience serves a function.